Codependency and substance abuse go hand-in-hand. It may be the alcoholic or drug addict who suffers from codependency, or the other way around for the addict’s spouse, parent or relative. Either way, codependency issues can be addressed at the high-quality treatment centers available through American Addiction Centers. Call us today at 877-640-1943.
What is codependency?
Author Melody Beattie, who wrote the best selling book Codependent No More, has defined a codependent person as “one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.”
Codependents might smother their loved one, clinging and killing with kindness. Or they might make excuses and apologize for mistakes they didn’t make. Sometimes codependents will use manipulative tactics in their efforts to control another’s behavior. They “believe we’d be happy if the other person would just change,” Beattie wrote in her most recent book.
Codependency can have serious consequences.
Codependent relationships can have the negative effect of keeping addiction sufferers from seeking alcoholism or drug abuse treatment. A codependent spouse of an addict may enable addictive behavior, covering for the addict when they miss work, misbehave or lash out at the children.
It’s important for the addict to see the awful consequences of their disease, as this can be the catalyst that pushes them into drug rehab. Enabling behavior benefits no one.
What are the symptoms of codependent behavior?
Codependents may exhibit controlling behavior, distrust, perfectionism, avoidance of feelings, excessive caretaking or physical illness related to stress. Other codependency symptoms include:
- Tendency to place the needs and wants of others first, to the exclusion of acknowledging one’s own
- Continued investment of self-esteem in the ability to control both oneself and others
- Excessive worrying about how others may respond to one’s feelings
- Self-esteem dependent on approval by others
- Undue fear of being hurt/rejected by others
How is codependency treated?
The term “codependency” has only existed within medical circles since the 1980s, but these days most mental health professionals are well-versed in codependency treatment. Community and/or religious groups may offer codependency seminars that feature experts in the field.
The substance abuse treatment centers available through American Addiction Centers are also highly-trained in treating codependency in addicts. For help in finding treatment for yourself or your loved one, call us today at 877-640-1943.
There are 12-Step group treatments for codependency.
Several 12-step groups hold meetings worldwide that deal with codependency issues. These groups include Codependents Anonymous and Al-Anon/Alateen, and Adult Children of Alcoholics — growing up with an alcoholic parent often causes emotional scars and unhealthy relationship behaviors that include codependency.
Overcoming codependency doesn’t mean shutting down emotionally.
Recovering codependents may be skeptical about entering into serious and intimate relationships because they fear resuming their destructive codependent behavior — but avoiding intimacy because of such fears is a mistake. The key to a healthy relationship is setting boundaries, and knowing when to say both ‘yes’ and ‘no’ to a loved one’s request.
For help in overcoming codependency the right way, call 877-640-1943.
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